Available now on the App Store for iPhone
Find a clearer next step.
Take a moment, find the words you want to say and prepare a difficult conversation at your own pace.
Free download · No account · Works offline · Stored on your phone
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Find the words you want to say.
Pick a situation, answer a question or two, and edit the draft. It runs entirely in your browser.
1 · Choose a starting point
Step away without it sounding like you're walking out.
You don't have to promise a return time.
2 · A few short answers
3 · Your draft
Private by design: your answers never leave this browser tab and aren't saved — closing the page erases them. Copied text stays on your clipboard until you copy something else. This is a starting point; change anything that doesn't sound like you.
The iPhone app adds 9 situations, saved messages, and a guided way to decide what happens next.
Get UnFightFree pause
Take a moment before responding.
Simple grounding and an optional break timer. Stop whenever you like — nothing is saved.
Quick grounding · no breathing needed
Take a break · optional timer
Want to say something first? Try: "I want to continue this when I can give it my full attention. I'd like to take a break first."
Nothing is saved or sent. You never have to return to a conversation that doesn't feel safe.
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How UnFight works
One question. Three ways forward.
I need a moment
Quick pause, guided pause, or a break timer. Breathing optional, sound off by default. Always free.
I need to find my words
Nine situations, a few short questions, and an editable draft — Brief, Gentle, or Direct.
I want to work through something
Five small stages at your own pace, ending in a next step you choose — including "more time" or "nothing further."
The RESET Method
A simple structure we designed for working through a conversation. It's a practical framework, not a clinical treatment.
- R
Regulate
Decide whether to continue now, take a break, write it down — or stop.
- E
Explain
What happened, what bothered you, what you'd like understood. Your words stay yours.
- S
State
Your experience, needs, what you want to ask, and any boundary. All optional.
- E
Establish
Agreement, follow-up talk, personal action, boundary, more time, support, or no further action.
- T
Track
Optionally check back later. No scores, no winners.
Voluntary agreements
A private proposal stays a proposal until you've both actually said yes. Pause, complete, or cancel anytime — it's not a contract.
Weekly Reset
One appreciation, one topic, one step, one thing to look forward to. Missing a week isn't failure.
Partner Mode, with consent
One phone, taking turns. Both opt in. Nobody's answers are shown unless the person who wrote them says yes.
Your private space
Stored on your phone, not our servers. Optional Face ID, hidden app-switcher previews, generic notifications, export and delete.
Free vs Premium
Prices are shown in the App Store in your local currency. The annual plan may include a free trial for eligible customers.
Free guides
After the argument
What to say after an argument
Take a break
How to pause an argument
Conversation prompts
Relationship communication prompts
Weekly check-in
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Apologies
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Boundaries
How to set a boundary
Plan a conversation
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Questions
What can I say when I need a break from an argument?
Keep it short and about the conversation going well: "I want to continue this when I can give it my full attention. I'd like to take a break first." You don't have to promise a return time.
Is UnFight therapy?
No. UnFight is a self-guided communication tool. It isn't therapy, counseling, medical care, or emergency help, and it doesn't diagnose anyone or score your relationship.
Does my partner need to use it too?
No. Everything works for one person. Partner Mode is optional, and only starts when both people choose to take part.
Where is my writing stored?
On your iPhone, not on our servers. There's no account and no analytics or advertising SDK. The app connects to the internet for Apple purchases and links you choose to open. Your iPhone's own backups may include app data.
What's free?
Calm Down, the break timer, safety resources, Say It Right (Brief, Gentle, Direct), your saved history, and one guided session a week. Premium adds unlimited sessions and expanded tools.
When is a shared conversation exercise inappropriate?
When anyone feels afraid, controlled, threatened, or unsafe. UnFight's safety pathway points to real support services instead of compromise exercises.
If a conversation doesn't feel safe, communication tools aren't the answer. UnFight has a free safety pathway with verified US and Canadian resources. In an emergency, call 911 or your local emergency number.
Safety resources